Showing posts with label awareness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label awareness. Show all posts

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Pay Attention


In this morning's yoga class, Shri said that the most practical advice she could give as a yoga teacher was this: "Pay attention, on the mat and in life." Great advice this is, for if we are paying attention we will notice that we are divinely guided. To what do we pay attention? To those meaningful coincidences I often write about; to those gut feelings and other physical sensations; to our own intuition, the knowledge that comes to us from beyond the realm of our thinking minds; to our dreams.

Once we're paying attention, the next task is to understand the messages that are coming to us. How is this done? Again, we can look to intuition and physical sensations. We can analyze our dreams, keep journals. We can begin to recognize patterns in our lives.

I talked to my dear friend in Santa Fe this morning about this, for she has been trying to listen to these messages that come to her. When she is being true to herself, so much lines up in place; her business receives the support it needs, she meets the people who can help her take whatever next steps she is meant to take, she finds temporary work with the propane company just when she needs to fill her tank! Lessons she needs to learn are presented to her again and again, sometimes in the form of relationships that mimic those of the past, sometimes in other challenges. With each lesson learned, the next is learned more quickly because she is paying attention, staying aware of how each seemingly separate part of life is, in fact, connected.

Such is the task for all of us. We are meant to pay attention, to tune in rather than out, because life is always telling us something we need to know in order to grow into our fullest potential. What has your life been trying to tell you lately?

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Toward a More Spacious Heart

Have you ever encountered a person who pushed all your buttons without even trying, someone to whom you have a deep, visceral reaction even upon your first encounter? I did recently, and I couldn't figure out why I reacted so strongly to her, why I wanted to avoid her entirely, why everything she said forced me to take shelter in the meditative calmness of my breath and the recognition of the thought-root of emotions.

Yesterday, I finally understood.

This woman, whom I will call S., said something to me that was decidedly confrontational, though veiled in sweetness. With the look on her face, the tone of her voice, and especially my emotional response, the answer clicked into place. "That's P.!" I thought to myself. "She's P., and she's here so that I can learn something." P. was a friend with whom I needed to part ways. Just like S., P. would hide aggression and anger under smiles and sweetness. It took me a long time to recognize that the friendship was more painful than genuine. I'm glad it hasn't taken me long to recognize the similarity of my emotional response to S.

With this new awareness, I can be much more generous of spirit. I know S. is not P. I know that she is not meant to be my friend (our relationship is solely professional). I know that I have no history with her and that I don't want to let any baggage taint my interactions with her. And with this awareness, I can be much more compassionate toward her and myself. It helps too that, right after my realization, S. opened up her own home and table to anyone who had nowhere to go on Thanksgiving. I could see the sincerity of her generosity, and my own heart became more spacious.

This spaciousness is the open heart I strive for, the heart filled with love and generosity, kindness and compassion. Awareness and compassion really do change everything. And a spacious heart feels so much healthier than a closed one. Blood moves through tissue, not bone. Love moves through openness, not stone.